The Future Is Female, and No One Is Happy
“It was always the women, and above all the young ones, who were the most bigoted adherents of the Party, the swallowers of slogans, the amateur spies and nosers-out of unorthodoxy.” ~ George Orwell, 1984
Scan the crowd at any drag show for kids, and you’ll see a bunch of smiling moms.
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Dylan Mulvaney, a 26-year-old man who rose to fame by transitioning to a “girl,” has 1.8 million followers on Instagram. Most of his followers are women. Most of the positive comments on his posts are from women.
Jeffrey Marsh, a 45-year-old man who identifies as “non-binary” and targets kids with gender/LGBTQIA+ messages in TikTok videos, has 399k followers. Most of his followers are women, and almost all the positive comments are from women.
Likewise, who do we see leading the triumphal entry of their trans children into the public square? Mothers.
There is a YouTube channel called Whatever that hosts a biweekly dating podcast where a panel of attractive young people, usually women, discuss their attitudes on dating, relationships, sex work, and social issues. The hosts surely enjoy being surrounded by pretty girls—strippers, OnlyFans models—but the guests are almost always incoherently ignorant.
The female guests on Whatever are the product of three decades of toxic training masquerading as feminism. They are both certain and uninformed. They brag about taking advantage of men for money and sport, and describe unconvincing future scenarios in which they bag husbands who earn six figures. They think a successful man will be proud to marry a promiscuous internet sex worker who can't name all fifty states, might (probably will) cheat, doesn't want children, had multiple abortions, and expects to be kept in style. All in return for her being “hot" apparently.
The activist version of these women can be found on TikTok screaming in their cars, defacing artwork in museums, or posturing topless on a street somewhere with 'Climate Rape' written on their chests.
Sorry, but this is what happens when the silly, gullible, unserious traits of women are unchecked by the influence of grounded, serious, skeptical men.
Before the feminists shriek in outrage, understand these points:
There are silly, gullible, unserious men
There are grounded, serious, skeptical women
Obviously. But at scale, sex differences matter. A lot.
Take this unserious person, a diplomat no less, who made the news earlier this year for tweeting about “black girl magic” when referring to the plight of women in Afghanistan. She tagged Lizzo and Beyonce, because their lives are so relatable to women who aren't allowed to go to school or work in a country with a 90% poverty rate.
American society is overly feminized, to the detriment of everyone. Women who focus on empathy tricked themselves into accepting and advocating for things that go against both their own interests and the values they held just a few years so. Today’s young men are almost a different species from the young men of forty years ago. Masculine behavior has been scolded, shamed, and medicated out of men and boys. Society says this is Good, because the feminine style is superior in every way.
Like all forms of modern social zealotry, the attitude is brazen and merciless. New “feminism” has infiltrated every aspect of our society: education, government, finance, the private sector, romantic relationships, parenting. Thousands of articles and academic papers make claims like “Women Make Better Leaders During a Crisis” and “We Need More Women Leaders”.
We have a female-dominated culture, and it's not the utopia we were sold.
It wasn't a study, but a poll conducted by YouGov and Deseret News. Only 15% of liberal women reported being completely satisfied with their lives, and a grim 15% reported happiness with their mental health.
Another finding by Pew Research:
The headlines are many and consistent. Young people are the unhappiest they’ve been since we started keeping track. Women who self-identify as liberal are the unhappiest of all. Women are twice as likely as men to take antidepressants, and middle-aged women have the highest rate of antidepressant use.
There are measurable sex differences in the Big Five personality traits of extraversion, neuroticism, openness, agreeableness, and conscientiousness. Women score higher than men in neuroticism and agreeableness. Of course, individuals vary. I am a woman and score low in neuroticism and agreeableness, and high in openness. Mine is considered a masculine personality type, yet sex differences at scale are consistent across cultures. In liberal Western societies, the differences between men and women are even more pronounced than the global average.
Neuroticism in particular is important. First, a definition:
Differences in neuroticism aren't limited to the sexes. Those who self-identify as politically liberal or left-leaning are more neurotic than those who identify as conservative or right-leaning. Most neurotic of all? Liberal women.
According to data, neuroticism is responsible for the disparities in life satisfaction between conservatives and liberals. Previous studies have found links between conservatism and life satisfaction as well as between neuroticism and life satisfaction. (I do not consider myself conservative, except in the context of 2023 that says anyone who isn’t evil and insane is conservative.)
Leaving aside neuroticism for a moment, there is another important difference between women and men: covert versus overt aggression. The sexes have different responses to stress, described as: “…characterized by ‘fight-or-flight’ in men and ‘tend-and-befriend’ in women.” And we know this from our days on the playground. Boys resolve conflict face to face, often physically, while girls employ strategies like gossip and social undermining.
Domestic violence statistics show that men and women commit abuse at almost equal rates. Thirty percent of women have been physically assaulted by a partner, compared with 26% of men. Not a big difference. Men are more likely to commit physical abuse, but women are more likely to commit emotional and verbal abuse. For the victims, the harmful effects of emotional abuse can last decades.
If women are more neurotic and agreeable, equally abusive, less directly aggressive, more manipulative and covert, does this support the idea that they are better leaders than men? Should men be pushed to the side unless they have been emotionally and spiritually castrated?
The answer is a clear No.
When men settle a dispute with a physical exchange, they release the aggression quickly. A physical altercation often results in mutual respect. They may shake hands or bump fists.
Most women shrink from physical aggression. There is a lot of talk instead; a lot of positioning and playing people off of each other. Tell person A, because they will tell person B, who will absolutely tell person C.
In a feminized society, safety has replaced bravery. Not just physical safety, but emotional safety. There are safe spaces and crying closets on campuses. Countless TikTok videos show young people and women scream-crying about "harm”. Not real harm. Not London during the Blitz. Harm from speech that didn't affirm their exact point of view.
“Who are these cringing little wimps whose ‘safety’ requires protection against free speech? What on earth do they think a university is for?” ~ Richard Dawkins
Remember James Damore? He was the Google staffer who was fired for an internal memo in which he posited that fundamental differences between men and women account for much of the perceived inequality. In the memo James wrote, “Women, on average, have more: Neuroticism (higher anxiety, lower stress tolerance). This may contribute to the higher levels of anxiety women report on Googlegeist and to the lower number of women in high stress jobs.”
And he was absolutely right.
In trait neuroticism, I score low and my husband scores high. Even with that difference, I am more empathetic; I am more trusting and came to the truth about COVID lies much later than he did. We are still male and female, and that’s a wonderful thing. Our strengths and weaknesses are complementary.
As a culture, we’ve spent decades denying our natures. The result is a dysfunctional society and miserable people. Yes, there are feminine males and masculine females, but the men are still men and the women still women.
Our culture is starved for the influence of men. We need strong fathers, brothers, husbands, and sons to help lead again.